I couldn't agree more what was stated by anonymous above. Well done. Being someone who was married and now divorced, I have a different outlook on marriage and what a "conventional" married couple should be, or really how they want to appear to others. Society paints marriage as the next step after that age old tradition of..college, job, marriage, house, baby, promotion, baby, retirement or something like that. Social standards tell you that if you dont have a man or family, then something is wrong with you. People start feeling sorry for you and you no longer connect with your newly family-oriented friends. Everyone's doing it...its the "right" thing to do and so on. SO, you get hitched expecting life to be the garbage you see in sappy Hollywood movies like the Notebook. it never does. that coupled with the allure of the narcissists who troll Facebook like 14 year olds and shows like the Real Housewives of YadaYada. These images tend to warp minds into believing that they "need" this or my husband isn't good enough because he didnt buy me a Porsche like Becky's husband did on that show. Failed expectations create tension and both parties feel a need to emotionally connect..maybe feel desired and appreciated by their trainer at the gym. We are all humans. To be honest, I know several guy friends of mine who would rather cheat then leave their wives bc of shame and the disappointment of others. Their wives nag and give up their appearance while expecting their husbands to still worship the ground they walk on. SOme have dropdead gorgeous wives who are perfect, and the guy still sees younger women. Ladies, its your own fault to blame if your husband strays because if you can't tell hes uninterested in you-then youve got be putting expectations on your hubby when they are that in fact YOUR expectations. Isn't it more important that he pay the mortgage rather than get you a pointless new purse? To me shelter says love over satchel. If you can't makie him feel like a man while treating him like a bitch..some other woman YOUNGER and more attractive will make him feel more worthy. Its more exciting and challenging to be with someone you want, value and care for soo much. it keeps you on your toes. Both parties work harder to keep one another from straying and why not live the rest of your life on exciting fun dates where theres an appreciation from one another..instead of expected, mundane and ordinary moments with someone you are tied to for (gulp) LIFE.
(How i got my husband back with the prayers of Dr Akim )I remember lying in my room when I was in high school and writing in a journal to my future husband. I’d write all sorts of notes and questions and things I’d wonder or ask this man when I eventuaclly met him. I would wonder where he was and what he was doing and if he was thinking about me too. It has always been such a strong desire in my heart to find a wonderful man to marry, someone who would love me and cherish me and appreciate me for the person I am. I always thought I would get married right out of college, just like my parents, so when that plan didn’t work out, I started to get discouraged. A school mate snatched my future husband away from my arms just because she had spiritual powers, all hope was lost to me before i came across the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@) who i confided in, i told him my long story and he helped me regain back my lover with his prayers which is now my husband today. if you have any problem email the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@).
The erosion of marriage harms not only the immediate victims, but also society as a whole. A Brookings Institution study found that $229 billion in welfare expenditures between 1970 and 1996 can be attributed to the breakdown of the marriage culture and the resulting exacerbation of social ills: teen pregnancy, poverty, crime, drug abuse, and health problems.  A 2008 study found that divorce and unwed childbearing cost taxpayers $112 billion each year,  and Utah State University scholar David Schramm has estimated that divorce alone costs local, state, and federal-level government $33 billion each year.